Monday, May 31, 2010

Graduation, Part 2

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Bek, in her graduation outfit.

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My girl leans forward to connect with me.

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Me and my graduated girl.

The day after graduation was one of the best days ever.  We went hiking in the Ozarks.  To say it was beautiful just doesn't work.  It was more than that.  It took my breath away.  I could imagine soundtracks form Lord of the Rings playing in certain parts.

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And I end this post with Bek... taking her graduation seriously... gazing at the paths before her... taking it all in.

The week later post with all things "Arkansas"

Life keeps me running.  I seem to always be "about to learn" to slow down and take in the moments and then off I go on another task... A week ago I returned from enjoying several days away from the family, visiting relatives and watching my daughter, Bek, graduate.  This morning I have some time... I think.  I could be washing walls and door jams in preparation of painting my bedroom.  I could get some more laundry done.  I have an ever present stack of filing staring at me from my desk top.  But, I'll take some time to share with my friends and family about my trip instead... or it might not get done!

It started with a lovely day at the spa.  Kind of.  I woke up early and drove to the airport, leaving behind 7 children (it seems like I shouldn't be calling them that anymore... they are getting so much older now... what do you call your children when they grow up?) and to everyone else on the airplane it was just another flight.  For me, it was spa day.  I sat back, enjoyed a book I'd been trying to get to, took in several deep breaths and sighed.  It was very nice to not be responsible for anyone besides myself.

The next day, Rebekah and I stared out the window, watching the rain pour down.  Now, Rebekah loves the rain.  She always wants to go out and play in the puddles and go for long walks in the downpour.  Me?  I am doing good when I take a shower and avoid getting water splashed on my face!  It's my brothers' fault.  Whenever we were in a pool swimming... whenever there was a squirt gun... guess who got it?  Me.  Right in the face.  I don't like the rain.  But, Rebekah wanted to ride the city bus around, take me to the mall, and show me around.  The weather forecast was not very promising.  So, I wore my brother's rain coat and decided to live life a little... and out in the rain we went.  We ran.  I started singing some such goofy song about singing in the rain and we were laughing and just as we neared the bus stop, we saw it.  The bus.  It just zoomed on by without us.  Now, it was POURING.  My feet were thoroughly drenched.  My capri jeans were dripping, so what did I have to lose?  We kept laughing and splashing and it was fun.

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And wouldn't you know it... as soon as our shoes and clothes were tumbling in the dryer and we were changed the sun came out!!!  We got ready once more and this time we made it to the bus stop on time.  I love to goof off and laugh, but sometimes my children don't get to share that with me because I have so much to do and get too busy.  This was Bek's and my day to just joke and laugh.  We went into the mall and she wanted to get into one of those photo booths with me.  I protested, saying, "Bek, I did not take the time to look pretty today..." And glancing at her, I continued, "and neither did you!"  So, we decided to pile our hair on top of our heads and take goofy pictures, since we knew they wouldn't be beautiful pictures...




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The next day I spent several wonderful hours getting to know my nieces, Amanda and Jenny and their children.  It was fun to see little Maggie warm up to me and giggle.  Zachary tried to fool me, pretending to not want much attention, but I could tell he likes the lovin'.  Looking into Amanda's eyes I can see our family resemblance... I see her eyes and think, "I've seen those eyes before!"  They are a lot like mine.  I hope she hasn't minded too much when she's been told that she looks a little like her Aunt Betty.  I am proud of both of those girls... waking up each day to take care of their little ones.  I particularly enjoyed holding baby Abigale and giving Jenny a break.  I had to take her outside to get her away from her momma, but once I did, she could feel my mother love and relaxed with me.  So, we settled in for a bottle and a nap and Jenny got to enjoy an hour to herself.  Thanks Amanda and Jenny, for the hospitality - it's great being family!

My mom and her love, Mike, drove in that day, too.  It was wonderful to see how much Mike cares for my mom and the fun they have together.  I couldn't possibly repeat the things that we laughed about... but it was sure a great time!!!

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Rebekah's graduation was nice.  Terri, my brother Ron's wife, and I sat and tried to calculate how many hours I would spend in graduations.  Well, you take 9 children... high school graduations take a couple hours... and then guess how many of those nine would be likely to graduate from college and add on hours for those graduations... I guess we passed the time supposing and calculating.  Then my dear girl graduated.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Nathaniel turns 14

When I think back over the past 14 years as Nathaniel's mom, I remember many dear things that would totally embarrass him if I wrote about them and published them on my blog!  So, I am going to share some dear things that I choose to tone down or write about discreetly...

From before Nathan was born, he must have been sucking his middle two fingers.  I never could break this boy of this habit.  My dad always said, "Let the boy suck his fingers... you can always fix his teeth later, but if he needs this habit for security, you cannot fix his mind."  I noticed by the time he started kindergarten, that he sucked a LOT when he was thinking.  It was a connection... like the battery of his brain was in his mouth, activated by these two little fingers... and he has a brilliant brain...

Some scenes from Nathan's life are imprinted in my memory.  Like when he was a toddler sitting out in the driveway with the Tonka truck and Tonka loader and one of my kitchen spoons... playing as sweetly as any boy ever did... and out came some yellowjacket and stung him!  Oh!  The injustice of it!

Nathaniel has always been an easy child to raise.  In school, he just "knew" things.  I remember him reading out loud all the "Bob Books" to me... and he was a whiz in math.  For the first year or so that I homeschooled him, I would begin a sentence and he would finish it for me... he had been paying attention all those early years and he just skipped ahead to Stephen and Julie's grade and learned whatever they were learning, because he already knew kindergarten and 1st grade.  And he thought the most unusual thoughts... for a 6 year old.  He would hang out in the living room... thinking... after looking at the thermostat.  He called out, "Mom?  What's 82 plus 82?"  "Wait!  Don't tell me!  I know this!  It's 160!"  I started to correct his math, but before I could he said, "Oh, no... I forgot the 2's... it's 164!"  So, I continued fixing dinner, amazed by my brilliant child.  Then he was going to bed... laying there sucking his fingers and thinking.  You could practically see his brain at work.  I asked him what he was thinking about and he raised up a bit and said, "Oh, I was just thinking of how many pieces are on the chess board... I was counting up how many on each side and the total..."  Mmm-hmmm... just what every 6 year old boy does when it's bed time, right?  Just so you know, he is the undisputed chess champ of the family.  Sometimes Stephen can get a game off of him, but not often.

I will resist the more embarrassing (for Nathan) stories... but I will say that he has been a bit of a momma's boy and I don't regret that one bit.  He has been a gift in my life.  He has sang some lovely, sentimental songs to me with all his heart... but that's all I'll say... for his reputation... since he IS 14 now...


Nathaniel is smart, but sometimes is unmotivated... well... lazy, truth be told.  He plays a solid, strong game of tennis and gives his older brother a challenging match.  He is set to move to his father's home this summer and will play a lot more tennis than he does here with me.  I am excited for him to have every good opportunity that he can take hold of and chase down each dream for his future that he has.  On quiet evenings I will be missing him... wondering if he is sucking his fingers, trying to solve an algebraic expression... and I'll be hoping to get a call asking me to come watch an important tennis match that he'll have.

Here is a slide show from Nathaniel's 14th birthday celebration:

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

From 20-20 to Tri-focals in 2 years

I knew that my eyesight was changing.  No longer was the fine print on the Tylenol bottle readable.  Once I got it into focus by taking it further away from me, it could not be read.  It was also getting more difficult to thread the needle on the sewing machine.  So, into the eyedoctor's office I went.  And he smiled and said, "You have 20-20 vision!  Your eyes see perfectly!"  He went into some explanation about aging.  Mmm-hmmm. 

The fine print stayed unreadable.  It took several attempts to thread a needle.  I went into the drug store and purchased magnifying eyeglasses because I really wanted to see more.  But, when I wore them and looked up around the room, the rest of life was blurry.

So, back into the office I went and had another exam.  Several times I was trying so hard to focus that it seemed still objects were moving!  This time the Dr. said, "Wow.  Your long distance vision is a little off.  Your medium range vision is even more off.  You must not be able to see much close up."  Finally.  He was getting it!  He gave me another talk about aging, ordered tri-focals and out into the lobby I went... to pick out frames. 

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I am now happily wearing my eyeglasses.

Saturday, May 8, 2010

Sutter's Fort

Victor's 4th grade class joined another 4th grade class and went on an overnight field trip to Sutter's Fort.  Joseph had the same opportunity last year and he and I had a fabulous time.  This year, great memories were made once more.

We had to wear "authentic" time period clothing.  I made my dress, the teacher's dresses, a cook's dress and Max's mom, Jill's dress.  I made Victor's short pants.  I couldn't pass up the opportunity to see a boy in knickers, now could I?

We met at the school at 6:30am.  While the children lined up and boarded the school bus, parents divided up and carpooled.  After a brief stop at Starbucks, we were on our way.

Parents arrived at the fort first and we began preparing stations for the children.  I was a basket weaver and put out metal tubs and filled them with water, for soaking reeds to make baskets with.  Other stations that the children had were: candle making, trapping, rope making, carpentry, kitchen and baking, stage coach, weaving and blacksmith.  We were all dressed in time period clothes and the hustle and bustle did in fact feel like we were transported to another time.

The bell rang to announce the children's arrival.  They had taken a bus to a local stop and boarded horse drawn carriages for their grand arrival at the fort.  Each child had taken the name of a pioneer settler who had in fact traveled from the east to the west and stayed at Sutter's Fort.  They had prepared by studying their character and preparing speeches to give.  So, parents gathered out front of the fort to welcome our travelers.

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A class board was made by a parent who had previously taken photos of the children when they dressed up for a school presentation.  Their historic names were used on the board and this was displayed in the front of the entrance to the fort for visitors to see.

After some group photos children went inside and began their activities at their stations.  There was a half hour lunch and "mail call".  Parents were asked to secretly write a letter to each of these settlers, as if they were related in some way and turn it in at the school.  I wrote a love note to Victor, as if I were a girl friend that he'd left behind.  He opened his mail, read it and quite embarrassedly stuck it into his cloth sack!

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Children then continued to visit each station and as the afternoon wore on, they were a bit quieter and subdued... they were getting tired.  Before we knew it, it was time to wrap up the stations and have dinner.  Men had been cooking chickens on a spit over an outdoor fire, then they cooked the tri-tip.  Dinner was tasty, but all of my food was cold.  Guests were invited to eat first, then children and volunteer parents.

A spraying hose began to wet the dusty ground and I could hardly sit still.  I knew what was next!!  A couple of musicians, also in time period clothing began calling out dances with their not so time period microphones. The children loved this.  I loved it.  I could imagine long ago when there were no televisions and game systems and families grabbed violins and guitars and had some great times with music and dancing.  Nothing beats it.

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After the dancing, children gathered for singing and then as the sun set and the sky darkened, an Indian lady unraveled quite a fascinating bedtime tale.  Our bags of bedding were put out on the grounds and our modern air mattresses were inflated.  We snuggled down under the stars for a good night's sleep... right?  Well, not exactly.  Just as I was about to drift off to sleep, Victor and Max were woken for night watch.  Children had been divided up into groups to walk the inside perimeter of the fort, keeping us settlers safe.  They had wooden rifles (that do NOT work, they are inactive toys).  Well, Victor and Max did not want to wake up and it appeared that when we did get Victor up, he began to sleepwalk.  He was drifting around the middle of the fort, aimlessly.  We called him back and the men in charge of night walk helped him from there.  He insists that he was awake.  Sure thing.  I don't recall every falling asleep totally.  In the morning we had to thoroughly clean up and pack up.

After I got home, showered and thought I'd become a modern day settler (settling into my comfy bed!), I noticed a package had arrive for me!  It was my mother's day gift!!  I am now pouring over 4 Chonda Pierce books and have acquired 5 of her dvds.  Thank God for modern day books and videos!